And as such, we absolutely have some all-time favorite wedding reception songs we love dancing to. Check them out below, and here’s a bonus song that we strongly recommend you never play at a wedding:
Better Man by Pearl Jam (just don’t do it, it’s awkward as hell)
Enjoy!
-Sam
When these two talked with me about how they met while we were taking their engagement photos, the recurring theme was how quickly they fell for each other, and how they spent pretty much every day together after they met. The other recurring theme was how much they both love their fur child, Olly, the cutest little beagle anyone ever saw (to check out Matt + Drew’s engagement photos with Olly, click here). I was so excited to celebrate Drew + Matt’s wedding day with them, and they had an absolutely stunning and stylish wedding day filled with loved ones, great food, and great music!
Enjoy the photos, and help me wish these two a big congratulations!
-Sam
Their wedding 1.0 was an intimate and joyful micro wedding in 2021 (you can see photos of wedding 1.0 here).
Alisha + Nate met during college through mutual friends, but they actually fell for each other while playing trivia together (I miss trivia, but I’ll be back at it again someday!) and like many of our clients over the last two years, they decided to split their wedding into a smaller legal ceremony (in 2021) and a bigger celebration now that it’s a little safer to do so. Wedding 2.0 was absolutely gorgeous, complete with custom beer & root beer favors, delicious food from a bevy of food trucks, and all in the lush surroundings of the Ivy House in Milwaukee.
Before the ceremony, the wedding party and families even got to hit up a few breweries, including City Lights and Lakefront Brewery, and the iconic Black Cat Alley Murals too!
Enjoy the photos of this fun and modern wedding day, and congrats to Alisha + Nate all over again!
-Sam
Here are the vendors that helped make their wedding day (2.0) awesome!
Ceremony & Reception Venue: Ivy House
Day-Of Coordinator: Ally Spaight
Hair & Makeup. Style by R
Wedding Party Busy: Milwaukee Food Tours
Florist: Jane Kelly Floral
Food Trucks: El Grito, Hidden Kitchen, Slo’ Motion
Dessert: C Adams Bakery
When Kate asked me my thoughts on a disability-themed boudoir session, which would be a juxtaposition of traditionally “sexy” outfits and poses contrasted against the every day realities of living with disability, I was immediately in. As we worked out the details, I got even more excited for the session, but I couldn’t have imagined how powerful the experience would be, even for me.
Kate and I both have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), a connective tissue disorder that impacts how our bodies produce collagen. It sounds like such a little thing, but it profoundly impacts almost every aspect of our lives. Whereas I (and my son, Ben) have the Hypermobile subtype of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, (also known as hEDS), Kate has the Classical subtype (also known as ClEDS). We have overlapping symptoms, but Kate’s symptoms predominantly affect her skin (scarring, wound healing issues, etc.) as well as her tendons/ligaments, which has had a significant impact on her mobility. She and I talk a lot about the impact of disability on our experience of day to day life, and how it can be very easy as fat, disabled women to feel invisible, and to feel like the exact opposite of what’s sold to us in the media as “sexy”.
Wanting to reclaim power in a fat, disabled body is something that is deeply personal to both of us, and to be able to collaborate on a project in this realm was so meaningful for me. I literally cried while editing the photos, not to mention the fact that we had such a fun (and emotional) time during the shoot. I could go on and on for ages, but I thought it would be way more impactful to ask Kate some questions about her experience. Check out her thoughts below!
What made you decide that now was the time to book a session?
I'd never really been the kind of person who felt like boudoir photography was for me. My entire life, I'd been the opposite of what the media and society called sexy--I'm fat, shy, have a chronic medical condition, I'm covered with bruises and scars. I don't really wear lingerie or sexy clothes. Doing my hair and makeup is more of a pain than anything. I have never considered myself especially attractive without someone, usually male, insisting I was. Based on these criteria, I figured it wasn't worth the money to get boudoir photos taken. Even once I got married and considered getting them for my husband as a gift, I figured he would want a new video gaming system more than just some photos of me trying to be sexy (something I didn't feel especially good at anyway).
I wear a knee-foot-ankle orthotic (KAFO) on one leg and a knee brace on the other leg, and hiking boots to provide support to my feet and ankles. I was getting ready for work one day, and all I had on at the time was my bra, underwear, braces, and hiking boots. As I was traipsing around my house, I laughed a little at myself and thought, some women seduce their husbands with stocking and high heels. For me, it's hiking boots and medical braces. From that thought, the idea of doing a boudoir shoot, but using assistive devices and medical equipment with the stereotypical sexy elements was born.
I texted Sam the idea when I got to work and then couldn't look at my phone for a while. That's when the doubt set in. It's a stupid idea. Who's going to want to see the photos anyway? Why get photos taken that I don't want to show to anyone? It had probably been done before--here I was, thinking I was all original or something. When I was finally able to check my phone, Sam had texted back: "I would LOVE to do a session like that! If you're down I would totally do it. Like seriously, I love it." That was all the reassurance I needed.
What were you hoping to get out of the experience?
At first, I thought it would just be a fun experience with a friend. I knew I'd get some photos that maybe I'd look back on some day and remember having a good time with Sam. There was a small part of me that wanted photos that I could share of a disabled, fat girl being stereotypically sexy, and that they would spread around the internet and inspire other people to get their photos done as well. But that's just about the actual product from the session. I didn't think very much about the experience of the session itself or how I might feel about the photos or myself after.
Describe what the session was like for you.
It was a ridiculous amount of fun! I've been friends with Sam for a while, and I know her thoughts and opinions on body acceptance/positivity/liberation, fat acceptance/fatphobia, disability, living with chronic illness. Knowing how in sync we are on a lot of those topics made it so much easier for me to trust her and allow myself to do something with her that I'd never considered "for me"--and allow her to document it! Even though I know Sam well, I feel like she would put anyone at ease. I laughed so much, and only part of the time was it because Sam was making me do something that felt silly (but ultimately looked great!)
I went through a range of emotions since we were incorporating a number of things that have always been an object of distress for me--most notably my leg braces and my wheelchair. There was anger, and sadness, and some real reflection on why bodies like mine (and devices that can be so helpful and freeing for people) are met with such derision. Sam had the idea to put the flowers in my braces, and while she was shooting those photos, I thought, Oh, it's like a funeral for my legs. And I started to tear up because I miss a lot of what I could do before I became so limited in my mobility.
Immediately after I started tearing up, Sam told me we were doing the "fuck you, chronic illness" powerful shot. I can see the tears in my eyes in some of those photos (or know they were there), which makes it all the more powerful to me. Our feelings about our bodies, our mental health in general, and our attitudes towards disability are also shunned and derided. We're not supposed to be negative; we're not supposed to give into our limitations; we're supposed to be smiling and positive-minded all the time; "you're not fat, you're beautiful!" *eye roll* However, there's real strength in accepting your limitations and changing the world around you to conform to your needs--physical, mental, or emotional--and not the other way around. Feelings can be fragile, but they aren't weak.
Was there anything that surprised you about how the session went?
I was surprised at how quickly it went, and despite Sam's multiple warnings, how absolutely exhausted I was after. Getting into poses, holding them, changing positions and outfits, standing, sitting, laying, having a fan pointed at you for hours--it all wears on you!
A comment Sam made during the session has stuck with me. I had my mostly black braces and hiking boots on, and Sam said, "You know, you really look like you have some badass, Sara Connor exo-skeleton armor on there." I stopped and was speechless. She continued, "I mean, really, they look like thigh high boots." NEVER in the years I've been wearing various types of knee, ankle, and leg braces did I ever think they could look sexy, cool, or, heaven forbid, BOTH. It was just an off-handed comment Sam made, but it changed my perspective completely. Now, when I am putting them on, I don't hate them quite as much. In fact, I just remind myself that I'm giving myself +5 to armor.
Describe how the image reveal went for you.
I'd been thinking about how I would feel about seeing the images for weeks before Sam even took them. The last couple of times I've had formal photos taken, I haven't been happy with how I looked--mostly, I didn't like how fat I looked. Since then, I've done a lot of work on my body image, learning about fatphobia, the colonialist roots of our current beauty ideals, disability acceptance and politics, and what that all means to me. Even so, I was still nervous about seeing all of me exposed. Sam had my photos ready sooner than she had anticipated, but even though I was excited to see them, and she was excited to show them to me, I asked her to wait to do the reveal for a few days so I could make sure I was really in the right headspace for it.
The image reveal was both better than I expected and more difficult. The better part was how much I really loved (and still love!) the photos! I tried to give credit to Sam for her artistry and talent, but she just responded with "it's all you. I just clicked the button." I loved the photos so, so much. To see my smile, despite wearing my knee braces, to see me laughing in my wheelchair, to see my big belly exposed and still consider the photo sexy...I wasn't prepared for that and how amazing I would feel about it.
The difficult part was that there were still photos that I didn't like or didn't want to see because I didn't like how I looked. I picked them apart in my head and judged myself by standards I know are arbitrary. Those are the ones I've been really sitting with and trying to love.
What was the hardest part of the experience for you?
Matching the idea of what I look like in my head to what I saw during the session and in the photos. I don't have a very accurate self-image in my head, so whenever I see myself in a mirror or a photo, I wind up disappointed. There were a lot of reminders during the session of how my body doesn't measure up--it's broken, it's fat, it doesn't work great, a lot of people would find it disgusting. But anyone who has enjoyed my company, loved me, cared about me, wanted to have me around me, found me funny or attractive or yes, even sexy, who has hugged me or kissed me did it while I was in THIS body. No one else who has loved me ever cared that I was fat or disabled. So why was it so important to me? I'm still working on that part.
What were you the most excited about as a result of the experience?
I kind of hinted at it in the previous answer, but I've revised the opinion that I'm not sexy or I'm not the kind of person who can be sexy. I may not feel sexy on a regular basis, but if I want to, I can. I've been at war with my body so long, apologizing for it, hiding it, worried about what other people thought of it. I'm almost 40, and as cliched as it sounds, I regret the years I've lost fighting my body and hating it for what it isn't. I'm excited to learn how to love myself--physically, mentally, and emotionally.
What would you say to someone considering booking a session?
Do it right now, if you feel ready for it. But don't wait until everything is perfect--then you'll never do it. The experience itself is fun and empowering. The images are just that--images. The feeling of knowing yourself in your own body--reflecting on what you're doing, why, and how you feel about it, THAT'S the reason to do it. And if there are some kick-ass images of your lovely self as well (which there will be), then all the better.
- Sam
Okay, I’ve also been dancing around my living room to this playlist as well. You caught me. ;) Feel free to put some of your current favorites in the comments, and enjoy!
-Sam
As we head into the start of our 2022 Wedding Season, I’m ready to have a blast, make new memories, and get even more behind the scenes photos! Enjoy these favorites from our 2021 Wedding Season!
-Sam
Boudoir is for every body. Enjoy some of my absolute favorites from this last year, and I can’t wait to take more!
—Sam
It’s not often that I do portrait sessions when it’s 14 degrees outside, but when I do, they’re with the amazing Anna Petrie and they’re glorious. The late afternoon winter light was stunning, the snow freshly fallen, and the snow angels and snowball fights superb!
I recommend enjoying these fun photos while sipping on some hot chocolate under a heated blanket while gazing out the window upon winter’s majesty, which is exactly what I’m doing while writing this!
-Sam
But even though the place is familiar, Alex and Kayleigh always manage to shake things up and this year’s family portrait session no exception! Enjoy the photos of these two adorable kiddos being goofballs and go play in some leaves yourself while you’re at it!
-Sam
I have been wanting to photograph a wedding in the Brass Works building ever since the Goodman Center renovated it, but COVID had other plans. It turns out it was well worth the wait though, because Emma + Daniel’s wedding was an absolutely perfect wedding day, and a great way to send off our 2021 wedding season!
All of the little personal touches that Emma + Daniel poured into their wedding day were wonderful! Daniel made all of the vases that sat on each of the tables and Emma designed the floral decor herself! With Daniel being a trumpet player, there were no shortage of musical guests playing for different parts of the wedding day, and the whole thing was such a lovely and sweet celebration of these two and their commitment to each other.
Help me wish Emma + Daniel a big congratulations, and enjoy the photos of their magical fall wedding day!
-Sam
Here are the vendors (with links) that helped make their wedding day awesome!
Ceremony + Reception Venue: Goodman Center Brass Works
Officiant: Phillip Cross (Dan's Uncle)
Wedding Band: Orchesta de Latin Pride (Sound equipment courtesy of Dan's uncle Fred)
Wedding Gown: The Wedding Shoppe (Wilderly bridal collections)
Groom’s Tux: Men's Wearhouse
Bridal Jewelry: Family Heirlooms
Hair Stylist: Brynn The Styling B
Wedding Party Attire: Mother of the maid of honor made the bridesmaid dresses and Dan’s mother made the Groomsmen’s vests & ties
Florals: K&A Greenhouse (floral decor, designed by the bride), Bre Cotter (bouquets), Suella Moran (boutonnieres)
Wedding Desserts: The House Cafe & Bakery
Catering: Working Class Catering
The light in the late evenings in October is just spectacular, and we got to take full advantage while wandering around the cute little park for family photos. I’ve been lucky enough to take family photos for Erin, Dan, and their kids since their oldest was 11, and it’s truly a miracle to see teenagers at this age willing to still do family photos with their parents and have a decent amount of fun with it, so it’s always a treat to photograph them, and we’ve gotten to see some lovely locations during that time, and Westmorland Park is one of my favorites.
Enjoy these fun fall family photos, friends!
-Sam
Ada and her parents, (Brittyn, Carlie, and James) and I punked around the Arboretum taking pictures, playing with leaves, and finding all kinds of neat pine cones, mushrooms, and twigs. Brittyn even let Ada try on xyr hat and it made for some pretty adorable photos.
It was so nice to spend time with such a cute little forager and her family! Enjoy these magical pictures of a morning of adventure! <3
-Sam
