Matt + Drew: A Willy Street Summer Engagement Session
Matt, Drew, and Olly had a great portrait session on Willy Street!
Matt + Drew and their furry son Olly joined me for an engagement session on a not too hot summer day, and we had a blast, as well as a great walk up and down Willy Street! Enjoy the photos from this sweet summer session. I can’t wait for the wedding in 2022!
-Sam
Charlie's Newborn Portraits
Chelsea, Doug, and Charlie had a Pride-themed family session to celebrate Charlie’s birth!
Charlie’s newborn session was filled with cuteness (obviously), matching outfits, and Pride-themed apparel. I was so happy to get to celebrate Charlie with Chelsea.+ Doug! Enjoy this adorable family and welcome to the world, Charlie!
-Sam
Jena + Nick: A Golden Hour Engagement Session
Jena + Nick wanted to celebrate their upcoming wedding with an engagement session at the beautiful UW Arboretum
And my goodness was it a gorgeous day!
A big, hearty congratulations to Jena + Nick!
-Sam
Cat + Sam: An Intimate Olin Park Wedding Day
Cat + Sam had their first look at the same spot where they first said “I love you”
And if that isn’t the sweetest thing you’ve heard today, I don’t know what to tell you. Their first “I love you” came at the first metal bench on Picnic Point, so on their wedding day, that’s exactly where they wanted to do their first look. It was a little rainy, and a little cold, but absolutely gorgeous, and I’m so happy I got to photograph them at such a special place!
For their wedding at Olin Park, they wanted to keep things casual with their closest family in attendance, and to celebrate with pizza and donuts afterward. I loved the purple and lavender accents they used for decor, and also of course the heating lamps because brrrrrr was it cold out!
Congratulations to Cat + Sam!
-Sam
Here are all the vendors who helped make Cat + Sam’s wedding day awesome:
Ceremony + Reception Venue: Olin Park
Officiant: Judge Jennifer Nashold
Bridal Gown: Lulus’s Bridal
Wedding Jewelry: Brilliant Earth (Bride’s necklace was her dad’s wedding ring)
Hair Stylist: Kismet Salon
Florals & Decorations: Ling’s Moment
Wedding Dessert: Level 5 Donuts
Wedding Pizza: Roman Candle
Shake Rag Alley Family Portraits in Mineral Point, Wisconsin
Shake Rag Alley in Mineral Point, Wisconsin is a magical place for family photos
When Kat mentioned Shake Rag Alley, and said how magical a place it was, my first thought was “I could use some more magic in my life, I’m in!”
Kat was not wrong, it’s a freaking magical place and was so sunny and gorgeous when we were there on Mother’s Day weekend! It was awesome to see how big the girls have gotten since the last time we did family photos (check those out here!) The girls also got to make fairy houses after the portrait session!
Enjoy these fun family photos, and if you get the chance, go check out Shake Rag Alley sometime!
-Sam
Rachael + Sam: A Madison Lakeside Park Wedding
On a beautiful and windy Spring day in Burrows Park, Rachael + Sam said “I Do”
I love small and intimate weddings, and Racheal + Sam’s wedding day was just that. Small, intimate, and full of life and love. As most wedding days do, it started off a little stressful, but everything came together by the main event, which of course was the wedding vows!
Rachael + Sam had a wonderfully short and sweet wedding ceremony (where Rachael was holding their youngest) and then were able to relax and celebrate with their closest friends and family and enjoy the weather! Just what a wedding day should be!
Help me with Rachael + Sam a big congrats, and enjoy the wedding photos!
-Sam
Alisha + Nathaniel: A Black Earth Rainy Day Micro Wedding
Alisha + Nate may have had rain on their wedding day…
But like everything else about getting married during a pandemic, they rolled with it!
Alisha + Nate met during college through mutual friends, but they actually fell for each other while playing trivia together (Remember trivia? And places? And other people?) and like many of our clients over the last year, they had originally planned on a larger wedding day, but when COVID still wasn’t over in early 2021, they made the decision to have a small ceremony with immediate family this year at Nate’s parent’s house in Black Earth, WI, and then celebrate with a bigger crowd in 2022.
The wedding day was simple and lovely and in addition to immediate family, the wedding day was also attended by Alisha + Nate’s dog, Laverne. After a short and sweet ceremony, we went outside with some umbrellas for a bit to take full photo-advantage of the drizzle (I love rainy day wedding pics) and before we knew it, it was time for them to head to a celebratory dinner!
Enjoy the wedding pics of these two love birds, and join me in congratulating them on their wedding! I can’t wait for more celebrations with these two and their families in 2022!
-Sam
Here are the vendors (with links) that helped make Alisha + Nate’s wedding day awesome!
Wedding Dress: Lulus
Catering: Pig in a Fur Coat
Hair: love + light hairdressing
Makeup: Julia Grace Salon
Suit: NL Suits
Flowers: Sweet Pea Floral
Terry + Leah: A Rainbow Wedding at the Goodman Community Center
Terry + Leah had a happy and colorful wedding day, complete with Ring Bear!
Terry + Leah, like a lot of folks getting married during the pandemic, decided to do things a little differently on their wedding day. They had a very intimate ceremony in March, and are planning a bigger reception celebration in October.
Small and intimate doesn’t mean boring though, and Terry + Leah’s wedding day was fun and joyful, and full of little touches (beautiful lights and rainbow accents and so many sequins!!!!) and big touches, like having a Ring Bear (I still giggle about this every time I think about it)!
Congratulations, Terry + Leah, and we can’t wait to celebrate with you for round two in October!
-Sam
Here are the wedding vendors (with links where available) that helped make their wedding day wonderful!
Ceremony Venue: Goodman Community Center
Officiant: Eldonna Hazen, Senior Minister, First Congregational UCC
Wedding Jewelry: Jewelers Workshop
Hair Stylist: Serena of Serena's Hair Now
Brunch Catering: Lily Kilfoy
Cupcakes: Daisy Cafe and Cupcakery
Welcome to Earth, Rylan!
We’re glad to have you!
It seems like just yesterday that I was doing maternity portraits for Lily + Aaron (check those out here), but in the blink of an eye, little Rylan arrived, and before we knew it, it was time to capture her newborn photos!
Let’s also just admit right now that it’s a weird year to be born in (let alone a weird year to be a new parent), but something tells me Rylan is going to do great, and she’s got the most loving parents even to look after her in these strange times. I am so excited to have been able to celebrate with this little family! Congrats Lily + Aaron!
-Sam
p.s. See if you can find the picture where Rylan is playing a mean air guitar :)
Lily + Aaron: A Maternity Session in the Arboretum
There’s something really humbling about being able to help couples celebrate multiple important events in their lives together.
I’ve been lucky enough to photograph Lily + Aaron’s engagement portraits and their wedding day, and more recently we were able to take some photos to celebrate the upcoming birth of their 1st child! I’m so excited for them (and also can’t wait to meet the new addition).
Despite the snow that we had for their maternity session, I think their wedding day was actually a couple degrees colder, but both days were beautiful and you all know how much I love the Arboretum as a backdrop for photos!
Enjoy the pics of these two parents-to-be, and keep an eye out for photos of their little family addition in the Spring!
-Sam
My Breast Reduction Story: Before, During, and After
breast reductions truly are life-changing
The Decision
"Have you ever thought of having a breast reduction?"
Adam (my husband) asked the question one night after I'd thrown my back out for the 3rd time in a 2 week period. I have hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (hEDS), which causes, among other things, chronic joint pain, joint instability, dislocations, and early-onset osteoarthritis. The effects of hEDS have been particularly hard on my spine as I've gotten older, in no small part due to my large chest size constantly pulling things out of whack. Before surgery, I was a 38H (and potentially bigger, because by the time I got to 38H territory, I was basically just always wearing sports bras). You can imagine the kind of strain that puts on even a non-hEDS spine, let alone one that is already compromised!
I was surprised by Adam's question. Not because I hadn't thought about it. In fact, when I was a DD in middle school, I thought about it a lot. I daydreamed about it in fact. I mean, I was in middle school and I wanted to wear tank tops with shelf bras like most of my friends; so who wouldn't daydream about having smaller breasts and being less noticeable in that area? But as I got older, I had accepted that large boobs were just part of who I was, like freckles and cat hair. I accepted this even as their size doubled during my pregnancy with Ben, and even as they never quite went back down to their pre-pregnancy size. No, I was surprised by the question because I had assumed that because Adam liked my boobs, he wouldn't want them to change, or would somehow have a hard time finding me as attractive if they were to get significantly smaller. And yeah, I know that shouldn't matter, blah blah blah, but it was a concern I had. He made it clear though that if it would help me have a better quality of life, he was 100% behind me and supportive.
That got me thinking about whether a breast reduction was the right decision for me, and whether insurance would cover it. I'm a person who loves to come at a problem with as much information as possible in order to make the best decision, so I did a TON of research, and joined an amazingly supportive Facebook group called Breast Reduction Surgery (Answer questions to join). I read basically every post I could and specifically looked for members who might also have hEDS to see what their experiences were. I thought a lot about how often I'd had to skip out of exercise because I didn't have a clean heavy duty sports bra to keep the girls strapped in place. I thought about how in the summer I would always have rashes underneath my breasts. I thought about how often my back hurt. I thought about how I had to sit very far away from tables and hunch over to eat, because my boobs were always in the way. I thought about all these ways, both big and small, that my large chest was a hindrance to just living my life the way I wanted to live it. It was late December 2019 when I decided that I was ready to take the next step, and I contacted my primary care physician to see what that next step would be. Turns out that the next step was a referral to UW Plastic Surgery.
Pre-Surgery Prep
I was initially scheduled for a consult with a surgeon I wasn't familiar with, but after the consult was scheduled, I was reading patient reviews online and realized that I just didn't feel comfortable going to that specific doctor, and called to re-book my consult with a doctor at the same clinic who had excellent patient reviews, specifically for breast reductions and reconstructions. I met with Dr. Afifi and Physician's Assistant Claire Chandler in late February 2020 for my initial consult. I'm not gonna lie, I had a strong emotional reaction to how the consult went down. Dr. Afifi and Claire were both very nice, and provided a lot of great information, but neither pulled any punches about the challenges that hEDS creates for surgery recovery. In addition to the items I mentioned above, hEDS also causes poor and delayed wound healing, which when a large amount of tissue is being removed, can pose some risks for large wound openings, and all sorts of other things that no one would want to deal with unless it were really worth it. Dr. Afifi told me flat out that from a pain reduction standpoint, I was a great candidate for the surgery, and he had no doubt he could get my size small enough to provide some relief from my crippling back pain, but that I had to really want the surgery, because my recovery would be longer than average, and more prone to healing complications. I am forever grateful for his honesty, but in truth it scared me, and I waffled back and forth after that visit for several months on whether or not I was truly ready to go through with surgery. They also took pictures at that visit, to submit to insurance along with my medical records detailing things like chiropractic visits, history of back pain and back MRIs, etc.
Side note here... As many of you probably know from my posts or knowing me in real life, I'm a fat lady who has worked very hard in the last few years to ditch diet culture, and embrace fat and body acceptance, and to make peace with my body. This can make visiting a plastic surgeon's office, even for something as medically necessary as a breast reduction, very fraught. It felt like being bombarded with messages about the acceptability of my body that I'd been actively trying to avoid. I don't want to scare anyone away from it, but I wasn't quite prepared for how that aspect of the consult would hit me, and while it's routine for a plastic surgeon to inquire about whether or not you'd like liposuction at the same time as your breast reduction surgery to improve your 'contour', out of pocket of course, I sat in my car and cried for probably 20 minutes after the appointment because my body image was just shot for the day. I point this out so that someone else who is on that same body acceptance journey isn't taken off guard if they have a similar situation or set of emotions at their consult. I want to stress that Dr. Afifi was not rude or judgmental in any way. This is just something that generally gets asked, and I wasn't emotionally prepared. One other thing I'll say on the topic of body and size acceptance and being anti-diet culture is that my insurance company at the time, Group Health Cooperative of South Central Wisconsin, did not require any weight loss prior to surgery, which I'm grateful for, despite my BMI (which is bullshit) being high. Some insurance companies do though, and some surgeons do as well regardless of insurance requirements, so this is something to be prepared for, and never hesitate to get a second opinion or a consult with another plastic surgeon!
Following the consult, I still wasn't 100% convinced I was going to go through with it, but I let them get me on the calendar for the pre-op, surgery, and post-op just the same, figuring I could always cancel if I decided to back out. I'm really glad I did that, otherwise it might have been easier not to go through with it. Ultimately, after lots of thoughts and research and agonizing, I became confident in my decision to go through with the surgery I was scheduled for on November 18, 2020. At the time I scheduled, pre-pandemic, I thought this was perfect timing because it would be after my busy wedding season (turns out I wouldn't have one of those in 2020), and would allow me plenty of time to recover before picking up a camera for weddings or portraits again. Well the pandemic came along and then I just assumed that the surgery would likely get pushed, but I got my approval letter from my insurance company, and before I knew it, my pre-op appointment had arrived. In discussing the after-surgery plan, Dr. Afifi and Claire said that while most people return to work in 2-3 weeks following surgery, they wanted me to take a full 4 weeks off to really focus on healing, as I was likely to have more healing complications. At this point there was one week to go.
Dr. Afifi called me the Sunday before my surgery to discuss any last minute questions, and to recommend a specific liquid supplement to aid in post-surgical healing. He asked me to start taking vitamins A and C, and to temporarily stop taking vitamins B and D (until 10 days post-surgery). The Sunday before my surgery I was probably at my most nervous (had a little mini panic attack in my bathroom worried that my scars would be horrible and that my proportions would be weird because I was so used to being the lady with big boobs), but thankfully, Dr. Afifi's call really helped calm my nerves, and from then until the surgery on Wednesday November 18, 2020, I was much less nervous than I anticipated.
Day of Surgery
One thing that was difficult about my surgery day is that I couldn't have anyone be with me while I waited to be taken to the operating room, due to COVID-19 restrictions. While I 100% understood the reasons why, I was afraid I would feel extra nervous being there by myself. That didn't end up being the case, but it was on my mind. Adam was home with Ben, so my friend Kate dropped me off for surgery, and drove me home once I was out. Once I got there, check-in took all of 5 minutes, and before I knew it, I was in a gown and those grippy hospital socks, peeing into a cup so that they could confirm I wasn't pregnant (spoiler: I was not). I was there for about 4 hours before surgery started, and during that time, the nurse took vitals, got my IV in (it always takes a few tries, due to the tricky veins associated with hEDS, and this time, it took 3 nurses to get in my IV, bless their hearts), and just generally chatted with me, which was appreciated so I didn't feel so alone. I texted with Adam and Kate and a few other friends and family, and tried to breathe and relax to avoid anxiety, which mostly worked. I brought my kindle with me, for the same reason, but really didn't get a chance to read uninterrupted, as I was never alone for more than 10-15 minutes at a time for that whole 4 hour period.
A quick (or not so quick) note about the breast reduction procedure itself. While there are many techniques out there, by far the most common for large scale breast reductions is one in which the surgeon makes an anchor-shaped incision underneath each breast, removes the excess breast tissue to reduce size, resizes the nipples to match the new breast size, and moves the nipples up to sit higher than they did previously, as breast reductions also include a lift of the entire breast. So when you're done, you'll have smaller breasts that are "perkier" for lack of a better term, and where the nipple is smaller and sits higher. You can read more about this technique here. You'll have scars that go completely around the nipple (though unless you have to have a free nipple graft, you're very likely to still regain nipple sensation following surgery), a vertical scar that goes downward from the nipple to the underside of the breast, and then a horizontal scar that goes underneath the curve of the breast and out towards the side. If you have a lot of "side boob" (breast tissue that wraps around your sides), your surgeon may also do either an extended cut on the horizonal incision to remove tissue on your sides and/or they may do a small amount of liposuction that would be considered part of the breast reduction procedure to remove the excess tissue on the sides and sometimes some excess tissue that goes up into the armpit area. This differs by surgeon and by what your insurance company will pay for as a part of the reduction, so it's always a good idea to ask detailed questions to make sure you know what exactly your surgeon will be doing during surgery.
About 30 minutes before the surgery, Dr. Afifi came in to mark me up for surgery (for breast reductions, they draw lines on you as far as where the anchor incision will go, where your nipples will be moved to, etc.). It's interesting but other than a very general conversation at the first consult, you don't really talk in-depth with your surgeon about what you're looking for until the day of normally. This is probably so it's fresh in their mind, but I wasn't expecting that. I showed Dr. Afifi before and after pictures of people who had 'before' images where they were of a similar body shape/size and similar breast size, and had 'afters' that were what I was going for. The before/after images were just ones I found on google. We discussed size, and I said I'd prefer to be a D cup after surgery, and that I'd rather wake up and be a little "too small" than a little "too big". He understood, and said that for my case, a D would be the easiest and safest size to aim for, which I was glad to hear. I also mentioned that I didn't want my "new nipples" to be too high or too small, and he assured me that they would be neither (he nailed it by the way - their placement is great).
Shortly after I was marked for surgery, the anesthesiologist came in to introduce herself, and discuss the anesthesia care plan, which I always appreciate. Surgeons get all the glory, but anesthesiologists keep you alive, so they're pretty rad.
Just a few minutes after that, the nurses and anesthesia team came to get me and wheel me back to the operating room. I had to leave my glasses behind (which always irks me because I'm blind as a bat without them, but such is life), and being wheeled to the surgical area, I started to have my first truly anxious feelings of the day. I did some deep breathing to try and stay calm, and the anesthesiology resident heard me, and asked if I'd like something to help me relax as soon as we got into the operating room, which I said would be really helpful. True to their word, they put something in my IV as soon as I was in the operating room, helped me shift onto the operating table, and then that's about all I remember before waking up in recovery.
The surgery itself lasted about 3.5 hours, and he removed 1000g from one side, and 1001g from the other, as well as about 300ml per side from the side lipo (I did not have extended incisions). He told me up front that the areas they did liposuction on would hurt the worst, and take the longest to recover, and he was not joking.
I woke up in phase 1 recovery and the recovery nurse was great about making sure my pain was under control, and my breathing was doing well. One of the first things I noticed after I woke up was how much easier it was to breathe. Like literally easier to breathe without my large breasts constricting my rib cage and lungs. Once I was stabilized and alert, I was moved back to the the room I started off in (phase 2 recovery). I was in there for several hours (not really sure exactly how long, but surgery was over just before 6 PM and I didn't get home until almost 9:30 PM). Once I'd peed (they always want to make sure you can pee after surgery), and was otherwise feeling a little more alert, the phase 2 recovery nurse showed me how to deal with my drains, and that they could come out after 48 hours. Adam was on the phone for this, since he couldn't be there in person, but at least he heard the instructions since I was still pretty loopy.
Sometime after that, the nurse called Kate to let her know that I was ready to be transported home. She was there shortly, and all I remember about the drive home was babbling a lot, and looking down my shirt and marveling at how small my new boobs were, even covered in bandages and the post-surgical bra they send you home in. Adam greeted us at the door and helped me inside and I spent most of that first night dozing off and on in the recliner in our guest bedroom, since you're supposed to sleep elevated for the first week or so, and I didn't have enough energy to attempt to sleep anywhere else.
Post-Surgery Recovery
I won't sugar coat it... The first week of surgery recovery in particular, I was miserable. I wasn't allowed to lift anything or do anything, I was changing drains and bandages and all kinds of things, I was exhausted and in pain, and I couldn't ever seem to get comfortable. That is not everyone's experience, and in fact there are a fair number of people who say the recovery is a breeze (I suspect those are also the people who loved being pregnant, but that's just a theory), but it was certainly my experience. Take it with a grain of salt, as I also have chronic and sometimes debilitating pain due to hEDS, so throwing this on top of that was bound to suck. I was given Oxycodone for the pain, 15 pills in total, and needed quite a bit those first few days, and then was able to transition to only taking it at night to help me get some rest, and alternating between tylenol and advil during the day. It was an exhausting and stressful first week to be sure.
By the second week, I still wasn't able to get good rest because I was so uncomfortable, but most of the acute pain had passed. I slept in our guest bed or in the recliner for the first few weeks by choice, as it was difficult to build a pillow fortress to keep me inclined in my own bed without it being an impediment to Adam getting a good night's rest as well. I still needed help with everyone from showering to filling my water bottle, but thankfully Adam had taken off the first two weeks of my surgery recovery, and both he and Ben were wonderful caretakers. In addition, I had a friend set up a meal train for me, so every other dinner was taken care of by friends who had volunteered to deliver food. I felt incredibly guilty about this at the time, but it was a life saver, and I am so appreciative of everyone who helped out and dropped off food or sent gift cards for takeout.
I had a few surprises in those early weeks of healing. Several to do with wound closures and dressings. Because of hEDS, Dr. Afifi did a few things differently than he might for other patients, and I had some different instructions as well. For instance, I vaguely remembered being told by the phase 2 recovery nurse that I had staples in, and would have to get them out within a week or so, but when I went in for my one week post-op appointment, I was told by a nurse that Dr. Afifi doesn't use staples, and that if I had any, it would be the internal disolvable kind. I let it go at that, but around the two week mark, a piece of steri-strip came off and underneath it was none other than a shiny, metal, definitely not disolvable staple. I called Dr. Afifi's office and they did some digging and found out that while not a single nurse who works with Dr. Afifi had ever heard of him using staples to close a breast reduction incision, he did indeed use them in my case to ensure good wound closure for the first week or two. They had me come in the next day to remove all steri-strips and then remove the staples (of which there were 20, 10 for each breast), and re-apply steri-strips. Other things that were different is that Dr. Afifi doesn't often use drains, but I had drains in for 48 hours. Normally, steri-strips would also come off around the 3-4 week mark, but Dr. Afifi had me keep the steri-strips on (reapplying new ones as old ones came loose), until six weeks post-op. These variations on his standards procedure led to very few complications, and certainly none that weren't managable. I had a few very small wound openings along my bottom incisions, and another (just a bit bigger) under my left nipple, all of which, 7 and a half weeks later, are now closed. I appreciate that Dr. Afifi was familiar enough with hEDS to adjust his approach to ensure the best outcome and healing possible.
I went back to work at 4 weeks, but didn't really start feeling human again until closer to the six week mark. At my follow-up appointment seven weeks post-op, I was cleared for all activity (and let me tell you that exercising is SOOOOOO much easier now, even though I'm a little rusty from nearly two months off).
In Closing
People call this a life-changing surgery and I can see why. I am so pleased with my results, and even though healing has been a journey (that's still ongoing), I am so happy that I went forward with the breast reduction, and haven't regretted it for a second! I currently still have some swelling (it can take around 6 months for all swelling to go away), so while I'm measuring right now at a 38DD or 40D, it's likely I'll settle into a 38D or even 40C when it's all said and done, and I am thrilled about that!
If you have any questions about my experience with having a breast reduction, I am happy to answer! Leave a comment on the post or email me at robandsamphoto@gmail.com! Please note that this post, any posts related to the breast reduction process, and any responses to questions do not constitute medical advice, and are based only on my experience. Always consult your doctor with medical questions or concerns. I have a breast reduction Q&A post located here.
Here are some before and after photos (forgive me, these before and afters are all phone photos AND my bathroom mirror is dirty lol)
-Sam
